Like they’re trying to make your life difficult. The biting, nighttime crying, destructive chewing, peeing, and pooping all feel directed at you. Sometimes it can feel like your puppy’s behavior is personal. To help you understand why you don’t feel connected to your puppy in the way you may have imagined. I say it to help you adjust your expectations and take some pressure off yourself and your puppy. I don’t say this to intimidate you or make you feel bad. You’re bringing a baby animal into your home. When you bring a puppy into your life, it’s a big transition for both of you. Acknowledge your disappointment and know that it’s normal for things to not match the idea of the thing you had in your head. It can feel so disappointing when something you really wanted doesn’t match up to what you thought it would be. So it makes sense that you wouldn’t feel connected to the puppy you brought home. You look at your puppy and just think, “What are you?!” This is totally not what you imagined when you dreamed of what having a puppy would be like. But your real puppy is having accidents on your carpet even though you took them out a half-hour ago. The puppy in your head will need to go out to potty every two hours because that’s what the puppy book said. They’re waking you up several times a night and you’re sleep-deprived. They’re biting your hands constantly when you try to pet them. Your real puppy is a wild Tasmanian Devil who does not listen at all. Your puppy will understand you intuitively, and vice versa.īut your actual puppy doesn’t make you feel at all how your idea of your puppy did. A perfect companion at home and on all your adventures together. ![]() You dream of a pup who will be your best friend. Maybe you aren’t comparing your puppy to another dog in your life, but to an idea in your mind. The new pup will also have traits that you enjoy, it just might take more time for you to see them. Your puppy may not be exactly like that other dog you loved so much, but you can still build a positive relationship with them. Even within the same breed and the same litter, dogs can have very different personalities. It can help to remember that every dog is a unique individual. Understandably, you feel disappointed by this. You don’t recall the other dog ever being so naughty and exhausting! You simply don’t have the same feelings about your puppy as you did about that other dog. They aren’t as cuddly, or they don’t look at you the same way that other dog did. Your pup is more energetic, more timid, more needy, more vocal. Maybe you got the same breed of dog as your friend, whose dog you adore.īut your puppy’s personality isn’t at all like that other dog. Or you got your puppy with the hope that they’d fill the hole your last dog left behind. Perhaps you got your puppy thinking that they’d be just like a dog you grew up with. Readjusting your expectations can help you start to like your puppy a bit more. ![]() But it can set puppy owners up for disappointment once their pup comes home. What sharing life with your new addition will be like. Whether you’re aware of it or not, you have certain expectations of what your puppy will be like. Let’s look at why you may be having these feelings about your puppy and what you can do to help build that connection you had hoped for when you got a pup. Many puppy owners feel this way, but it can still feel distressing or confusing. And you’re not a monster for not liking them. This is normal! Nothing is wrong with you for not feeling an instant bond with your puppy. At times, you aren’t sure if you like them at all. ![]() You feel bad even thinking it, but you don’t feel a connection with your puppy. Or your puppy is actually a lot more work than you thought they’d be. Perhaps you imagined you’d feel an instant bond with your puppy, but you don’t. Things aren’t quite what you imagined though. And now your new furry companion is a reality. Maybe you’ve been dreaming of this day for weeks, months, or even years.
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